Surviving Infidelity: How to Heal and Rebuild Trust

Infidelity is one of the most painful betrayals a couple can face. Whether you’ve been cheated on, have been unfaithful yourself, or are struggling with the aftermath of an affair, the emotional turmoil can feel overwhelming. But there is hope—and help.

Dr. Scott Haltzman, a respected psychiatrist and marriage therapist, has spent years researching and guiding couples through the turbulent experience of infidelity. In his book, Secrets to Surviving Infidelity, he offers a step-by-step survival guide to help individuals and couples navigate this difficult journey. Packed with expert advice, real-life stories, and actionable strategies, this book is a must-read for anyone looking to heal, rebuild, and possibly save their relationship.

Why People Cheat—and What You Can Do About It

One of the most compelling aspects of Dr. Haltzman’s book is his exploration of why affairs happen. He explains the biological, emotional, and psychological reasons behind infidelity, including:

• The allure of novelty and why long-term relationships can lose their spark.
• The role of emotional affairs, which can be just as damaging as physical ones.
• The impact of modern technology, including social media and texting, on marital boundaries.
• How unmet emotional needs can create vulnerabilities in relationships.

Understanding these factors doesn’t excuse infidelity, but it empowers couples to recognize risks and address them proactively.

Is Rebuilding Trust Possible?

For those wondering whether a relationship can survive after an affair, Dr. Haltzman offers a resounding “yes”—but with important caveats. The healing process requires honest communication, accountability, and a commitment to change from both partners.

Some of the key steps to rebuilding trust include:

• Defining infidelity— What does it mean in your relationship? From physical affairs to online flirtations, different couples have different boundaries.
• Ending the affair completely— True reconciliation can only begin when all contact with the third party is cut off.
• Understanding the emotional aftermath— Betrayal often leads to grief, anger, and self-doubt. Both partners need to process their feelings in a healthy way.
• Rebuilding intimacy and connection— Dr. Haltzman provides exercises and strategies for rekindling emotional and physical closeness after trust has been broken.
• Forgiveness— Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the betrayal, but it is essential for moving forward.

Who Should Read This Book?

Whether you're struggling with infidelity in your relationship or want to understand how to protect your marriage from common pitfalls, Secrets to Surviving Infidelity provides a compassionate, research-based, and practical approach to healing.

• For those who have been cheated on – This book offers clarity, support, and a path forward, whether you choose to stay or leave.
• For those who have had an affair – Dr. Haltzman helps unfaithful partners understand why they strayed and how they can work toward making amends.
• For couples on the brink – If you're wondering whether your marriage can survive an affair, this book gives you the tools to make an informed decision.
• For therapists and counselors – Professionals working with couples will find invaluable insights and strategies for guiding clients through infidelity recovery.

Infidelity is one of the hardest challenges a couple can endure, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your story. With the right guidance, support, and willingness to rebuild, healing is possible.

Get your copy today and take the first step toward recovery.